State/Focus on what you Want
Get What You Want – Where some people put their focus
- People often focus/state what the don’t want – ever have conversations like this:
- What do you want to eat? I don’t want pizza, I don t want Chinese. I don’t want burgers
- Where do you want to go on vacation? I don’t want to vacation to the mountains, or Disney World, or where we went last year
- What do you want from this? I don’t want to have that problem, that problem, or that problem
- How could we improve this project? I don’t think that that, or that is a good idea
- Are any of these really helpful? NO!
What do YOU focus on?
- If you regularly use statements like, ‘I don’t want/think [fill in the blank]’, you may have a focus problem
- When you consistently put a lot of attention and focus on what you don’t want in various situations in life:
- You dull your own ability to see solutions and goals
- You frustrate others by denying them clear input when it comes to making group choices and decisions
Get What You Want to the ‘treasure’ faster!
- Achieving outcomes and finding solutions is like digging and finding a treasure – there are two basic ways of doing it:
- The Direct Mindset: Focusing on what you want is a mindset where the basis of finding solutions comes from pointing directly at them – it’s very efficient
- The Elimination Mindset: Focusing on what you
don’t want is a mindset that attempts to find solutions through the process of elimination – which is often a huge waste of time, energy, and resources for everyone involved
Change your focus…
- When solving challenges/problems – Focus on the solutions you want, NOT the problems you need to avoid
- When asked for your input – Clearly state the one choice you believe is the best, NOT all the choices that don’t appeal to you
- When asked what you want to do – Clearly state exactly what you want to do, NOT everything you don’t want to do
How to use this:
- Train your brain to seek and locate answers/solutions • Focus on pointing to, and highlighting solutions:
- This is the idea I think will work
- What will improve this?
- Here’s the solution I like
- Focus on stating the choices you want:
- I want to eat there
- I want to vacation there
- I want to buy that car